IS CAMPUS LOVE REAL?

 Mapenzi! Mapenzi! Mapenzi! Love can be sweet when you find the right patner and at the same time can be bitter when you end up with the wrong partner.

                 Research done by different organisations has concluded that amongst campus students and teenagers,there have been numerous killings between young campus lovers.But is killing your lover after a break up/a fight the solution?The most incident scenario being one Edmond Ruto who killed his ex girlfriend after they broke up for a long time.

               Edmond Ruto appeared before the high court he confessed to killing his lover in 2018 he was later sentenced to 10 years on prison.This however stirred a conversation among Kenyans who had different views on the sentencing some claimed it was too short some claimed that he had admitted his mistakes and the hearing was fair.

                   As Kenyans we need to tackle this rising issue. Campus/college comes with alot of freedom this enables young people to interact and develop mutual feelings for each other.Some get into relationship so as to be loved while some get into relationships to gain financially. In my recent interaction with young students from Technical university of Mombasa I had a chitchat with some students and from the talk love is no more. A young kiraitu who was a third year at the school told me that he had 4 different girls from different departments and he did not have feelings for any."me nkona wasichana wanne lakini siwapendi nawatumia tu kwa mda Kisha nijitoe" he said.He further added that many campus girls were after him because of his financial status and not love. Upon inquiring about his HIV status he said that he was negative and was always safe when engaging with any of his lovers intimately. 

        The ladies had different sides of their story some claimed that they were after a productive relationship but they got cheated on so they decided to "play the game".

         When looking out for a partner to spend with either long term or short term you should be keen of the following issues to avoid drama:

       1.If they are moody or temperamental. 

       2.They threaten to hurt you/themselves.             when you argue.

       3.They are not loyal

        4. If they are in the relationship for                      other reasons ie money/intercourse 

       5.if they Dont respect you.

If you happen to spot this within your partner walk out of the relationship and explain to your partner your reasons.Toxic campus relationship tend to make young people go mad or even fall into depression some even drop out of school or kill themselves as young as 20 years old.as they say love is not for the faint hearted so don't fall in love if you are not ready and don't fall in love with the wrong person.

             But at the end of the day ask yourself of by any chance are you ready to settle with your partner for enternity or if they decide to leave you today how will you handle the situation.